Becca Conley student columnist

Lenten season – time to make decisions without self-interest involved


"Love is patient. Love is kind. It is not proud. It is not rude" (1 Corinthians 13:4). I was reading this to the congregation as a lector a couple of weeks ago and I instantly became inspired by the words. Most people associate this passage with marriage ceremonies; my parents were one of the many that had this read at their wedding. To me, though, this passage is more than just a love between two people. It encompasses the entirety of the Catholic faith: love is the greatest commandment and should be remembered overall.
Unfortunately, most people, including me, do not always take this to heart. In people's lives, there is sometimes selfishness in important decisions. In my own life, I have to decide between volunteering for pierogi-making at my church with my mother or staying home and relaxing. I have to choose between even something as small as eating dinner out with my family on Friday nights or going to hang out with my friends.
Especially now, when I am about to leave for college, I need to make decisions with my parents in mind since they are the ones who gave me the life I have. This can be challenging when the option I prefer is not necessarily the option my parents prefer. While I know my parents want what is best for me, I know they also want me to consider their well-being. I chose to spend my Friday dinners with my parents because I only have a few months left before I leave the nest, and I want them to know that they are important factors in my life.
It's difficult to make decisions without self-interest involved, but during this Lenten season we should be mindful of making choices that include our friends and family before ourselves. Although the Christmas season is typically connected with selflessness, the Easter season should be equally as important. Lent leads us to a time of new beginnings; it is a remembrance of what God sacrificed for us - his only Son. This sacrifice tells us that we need to think of those close to us when considering possible decisions and outcomes. We need to remember our actions affect more than ourselves and in a bigger way than we realize.
Instead of acting in self-interest, this Lenten season should be a new beginning of putting others first, especially the family. This can initially be difficult to remember, but a good habit to keep. My motto for this season leading to Easter will be: I am patient. I am kind. I am not proud. I am not rude.

Becca Conley is a senior at Andrean High School. Email her at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .

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